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Know Your Worth

I remember a guy asking me on a coffee date when I was single. “YES!” you may think I said in response. After all, I had not had a date in two and a half years.

This is the thing: I would have loved to have met him for coffee because he was one of the first guys who interested me on this popular online dating site. I really wanted to go out with him, but I waited. I waited because I had not heard from him in several weeks. I was wondering if he ghosted me.

Anyway, he asked me out on a coffee date weeks before, saying he wanted to take me to a Japanese steakhouse in my area. “Oh no,” I thought. Did he forget that he invited me to the steakhouse weeks before? I was so confused. Did I get downgraded from a meal to a mere drink? Days went by with no contact. The ball was in my court, and I left it right there. I never called him.

Single sistas, please hear me out. You are more valuable than a cup of coffee vs. a steak dinner. Come on now! You have got to know your worth. Please do not miss what I am saying here. I am not someone who feels entitled to an expensive meal. It is nice to have one but I can pay for my own. This is not the point. I did expect the guy to keep his word. I encourage you to have reasonable expectations as well. You keep your word and hold him to his word. Integrity is a foundational principle you want to see in any relationship – plutonic or romantic.

Know your worth, then make your decisions. Do not make decisions without recognizing and cherishing your worth. You are valuable. You are of great worth. You are loved by an Almighty God who can do exceedingly and abundantly above anything you can ask, think, or even imagine (Ephesians 3:20).

If you do not know your worth, ask your loved ones. Talk to those friends you have known for a long time. They know you. Write down those affirmations people have given you over the years. Note what characteristics you love about yourself. And most importantly, read what God says about you in His Word.

You are a royal priesthood. I Peter 2:9
You are the apple of God’s eye. Zechariah 2:8
No one can take you from Him. John 10:28-30
You can never be separated from God’s love. Romans 8:35-39
You are fearfully and wonderfully made. Psalm 139:14
You are loved and worth dying for. John 3:16
You are not alone. Hebrews 13:5

There are many more things God has said about you. Everything God made is good – that means you were designed perfectly by a perfect God. He broke the mold when He made you, girl.

You are a woman of great worth. And don’t you forget it!

Vernicia T. Green

Vernicia T. Green is a licensed financial professional with WFG helping middle income families make and save money, save on taxes and create generational wealth. She provides counseling and coaching resources for single women. Vernicia is the Founder of the Stepping Into Purity and Beyond Group, the author of Stepping Into Purity and Creator of the 12-SIP, a 6-week healing program helping single women recover from heartbreak, rediscover their identity, reignite purpose, plan their financial future while preparing for marriage. Vernicia worked as a director and counselor in the pregnancy medical industry for close to 20 years. She received her Masters degree from Regent University and her Bachelor’s degree from Norfolk State University. Vernicia became a Certified Traumatologist with the Green Cross School of Traumatology. She traveled to South Africa, Haiti, and Nicaragua to provide leadership training to local leaders responding to crisis victims and to Ghana for ministry.