How To Repair Your Relationships

Repairing a fractured relationship can be one of the most difficult things to do. How do you fix a relationship when someone has betrayed you? How do you fix a family relationship when it seems as if everyone is crazy but you?

Is there a relationship in your life that you need to repair? Are you ready to repair your relationships? Are you sick and tired of allowing others to control you? Are you ready to do the work? Will you just walk away, depending on the nature of the relationship? Are you ready to get rid of the old you and the way you handle your relationships?  Have you ever thought there has got to me more to my life than just this?

Before we look at ways to make a change in our relationship, we have to take a look in the mirror to see what I am guilty of in this relationship. This can be a hard thing to do at times because we don’t like to admit that we are wrong. Admitting I messed up is half the battle. I am going to take responsibility for what I have done, what I have allowed, and what I have not done. What is stopping you from moving forward to repair that relationship?

Did you speak up, and there is still no resolution?

When something is broken it is damaged, unsteady and in our relationships, we don’t trust or we may begin to act unseeingly.

Let’s look at the definition of repair:

To repair means to fix or mend; to repair a thing from suffering, to repair something means to take action, that means you have to get up and do something, to set right, restore, put back together, overhaul, rebuild, adjust, and patch up. It requires that you do something about the relationship.

You may say I don’t care. You don’t mean that, so stop it. Stop being stiff-necked and do what you know you should do. Go to that person and fix it. You are not going to them to go off on them but to let them know how they have hurt you and how you feel. You are going for reconciliation, restoration of the relationship, and forgiveness.

You are the bigger person, the better one, or better yet, the mature one, and do the right thing. Do they know you were hurt by what they did, said, or didn’t do? If so, then the ball is in their court. What’s important is that you do your part. It may be that they do know what they did, but it becomes your obligation to yourself to make them aware of it so that you aren’t carrying around anger and unforgiveness for years.

True story: There were these two individuals who had a falling out. Didn’t speak for some time. A third party was aware of the situation and went to one of them and told them that they were not right for allowing the relationship to stop. The third party told them they should go to the person and be reconciled. So, they listed and the friendship was restored.

Some time went by and God called one of them home. Thank God for the 3^rd party stepping up to the plate. Thank God the one listened and thank God the relationship was repaired. Thank God that now this person is in the presence of God because the relationship was restored. I am sure the one who went to the person to repair the relationship is relieved that they did it. Can you imagine the guilt that would have been there if they didn’t listen?

Today I am your third party. Get your feelings out of the way and do what is right before it’s too late. You don’t want to live with regrets. Go to whoever who has hurt you and let them know. If they don’t hear you or receive you then it is on them. You did your part. Remain prayerful and ask God to open the door for you to restore the relationship.

I am not saying that the person has to be in your life but respect yourself enough to do the right thing. Clear your conscious by going to them and freeing up yourself. It doesn’t matter who was wrong. What matters is who will be mature enough to step up to the plate to repair and restore the relationship. If you continue to do what you have always done, you will get the same results, and nothing will change. I challenge you today to step up to the plate and repair your relationships.

Life is too short to walk around with unresolved issues in your heart. Life is a vapor. You can be here today and gone today. What if you never get a chance to speak to that person again?